Young or Old, Words Do Hurt
by Rochelle Griffin
This weekend I had a very adult conversation with my 11-yr old son. I was on Facebook when I saw something in my newsfeed about a 15-yr old girl named Amanda Todd who recently committed suicide as a direct result of bullying. I clicked on the page and saw this absolutely beautiful young girl and my heart ached. One month ago, she posted about her pain on YouTube. Jacob and I sat together in silence, watched her video, and then talked about it openly.
You see, when I was her age, I also was the victim of bullying. Cyber-bullying didn’t exist at the time but the pain was the same. It was the classic case of “mean girls,” once supposed friends, who made my life hell during middle school. Even 30 years later, I can still recall some of the instances.
Did I, however, ever consider taking my own life? Honestly, no. The thought never crossed my mind. Bullying did take its toll on me though. Even to this day, trust is a hard virtue for me. I’m a very trusting soul, but if that trust is broken, it can be extremely hard for me to trust that person again. On the other hand, bullying made me extremely empathetic to others. I believe that all things happen for a greater good, and those experiences have made me who I am today…and I love who I am.
…So we survive the years of adolescence as unscathed as possible. We think once we reach adulthood and people have grown up, bullying won’t exist for us.
Think about it: A different kind of bullying can occur…one that appears to be more socially acceptable…our views of overweight people.
Be honest with yourself. Have you ever seen an obese woman or man at a restaurant and glanced at their plate to see what they were eating? Have you ever talked about overweight adults behind their back using less-than-complimentary words? If we are being truthful, most of us have…and that may be a bitter pill to swallow.
Recently, Wisconsin news anchor Jennifer Livingston made national headlines when she fought back against one such person who called her fat and said that she wasn’t a good role model as an anchor. To her, I say BRAVO! Good for her!
As a RN and fitness coach, of course I know the health ramifications of obesity. I’ve witnessed the consequences. I’ve taken care of people post-heart bypass surgery or post-amputation from Type 2 Diabetes. If you are considered overweight or obese, I’m not giving you free license to remain that way. What I’m saying is that we need to accept people for who they are and where they are at in their life. We need to support people, not tear them down. Making people feel unworthy or less than whole is not the way to fight the obesity epidemic, nor is it a way to be a good role model for our children.
I feel passionate…no, I feel CALLED…to help. I simply see people as people.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject.
To Living Your Best Life,
Rochelle Griffin, RN BSN FDN-P
Rochelle Griffin, The Wellness Detective™, is a Registered Nurse (with over 22 years experience) & a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition™ Practitioner who has transitioned her love for fitness, health, & freedom into a 7-figure International company that now helps others live Their Best Life.
She founded Your Best Life, Inc with her husband Keith after stepping onto the edge of physical ruin with her health & the health of their young son. Having experienced a complete turn-around, they now desire to give hope & support to those who are dissatisfied with their current situation.
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