Harmony CAN be Restored Between Family & Business
by Rochelle Griffin
For over 20 years, I worked as a registered nurse, often 50-60 hours per week, in hospitals, home health agencies, and hospice. My son was very young at the time and was one of the main reasons that I made the decision to leave my nursing career and become an entrepreneur/work at home mom. I wanted to be able to spend time with my family and had this picture-perfect idea in my head of what it should look like. This picture was thrown out the window when my husband was deployed to Afghanistan. I found myself coping with the stress by focusing my energy on my business.
My company flourished during the year that my husband was overseas, and before I knew it, I was earning 3X my nursing salary. Great, right? Hmmmm…not so much.
The problem was that as I became increasingly successful, I spent more and more time focused on my business. The success was almost like a drug. I kept striving for that next accolade, award, or title. Before I knew it, I was easily working 80 hours per week, spending hours on the phone, and traveling to different events monthly. I had a major disconnect with reality because, in my mind, I was at least home full-time 3 weeks each month. The problem was, although I was physically present, I wasn’t mentally there. I didn’t have time to read bedtime stories because I had a call to be on. I didn’t have time to go to the park because I had to answer the multitudes of individual emails.
As a result, my son HATED my growing business and everything that it stood for. I know that “hate” is a strong word, but it’s actually his exact one. He began to act out, especially when I traveled, and my family began to crumble and implode. The last straw for me was when I was out of the country last year and my husband told me that our son was playing with matches while his dad was asleep, resulting in a nice hole in our couch. Yep, you read that correctly. Wake up call, anyone?
I decided that I had 2 choices: leave my business completely behind OR learn how to work in a different manner. I chose the latter.
So HOW did I bring the love back when all felt lost?
I can pinpoint 3 specific changes over the last year that has made all of the difference:
- I learned to utilize social media and began to work smarter, not harder.
Although I had dabbled in Facebook and Twitter, I didn’t know how to effectively use the sites specifically for business. Learning to use social media purposefully allowed me to connect with my ideal client. I no longer had to search or beg for clients to grow my business. Instead people…the right people…began to seek me out. Using the “one to many” model dramatically decreased my phone use, email, and direct messages. I found that I was now able to achieve in 30 hours online what used to take me 80 hours and tether me to a phone! Pure freedom!
- I involved my family in the business.
My business went from solely “mine” to “ours.” Knowing that I utilize social media for business growth, my family now thinks nothing of it when we are out to eat and I say “Wait! I need a picture!” Or something funny will happen and my son will be the first to say “Mom, you HAVE to put that on Facebook!” My son feels like he is heard and is a valued member of our family and business. It makes me smile and it’s so fun to see his creativity!
- I purposefully began to choose my travel.
Rather than use my travel as an escape, I made a conscious choice to limit my time away and include my family in the adventures whenever possible. Last year, we went to Atlantis in the Bahamas with my business. Next year we are going on a cruise on business. As a result, when I do have to travel solo, I have my son’s blessing (along with Phil, the little golf ball travel buddy he made for me.) No more experimentation with matches.
With my family and marriage more cohesive then ever before, harmony has been restored, my stress level has decreased significantly, and my income has increased to almost 5X my nursing salary. I no longer feel as though I have to separate out my work life from my home life. I am now simply living “life.”
To Living Your Best Life,
Rochelle Griffin, RN BSN FDN-P
Rochelle Griffin, The Wellness Detective™, is a Registered Nurse (with over 22 years experience) & a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition™ Practitioner who has transitioned her love for fitness, health, & freedom into a 7-figure International company that now helps others live Their Best Life.
She founded Your Best Life, Inc with her husband Keith after stepping onto the edge of physical ruin with her health & the health of their young son. Having experienced a complete turn-around, they now desire to give hope & support to those who are dissatisfied with their current situation.
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