by: Rochelle Griffin
Arethra Franklin sang “R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me” back in 1967 and it went on to become not only her signature song but also a hallmark song for the feminist movement. She sang about being a strong, confident woman. I have a feeling that anyone reading this right now can easily break out in the melody. Admit it, did you sing the line as you read it? Here’s the issue however…as a group, we talk a good game about wanting respect from others BUT the question really needs to be do we respect ourselves? Do we treat our bodies with the respect deserved?
As a nation, the answer is a resounding NO. If we did, we wouldn’t have the obesity epidemic that we currently have. Let’s take it down to an individual level. Do you respect your body? Do I? It’s a question that I ask you to be honest with yourself about…and the answer may be hard.
I’ve had a rough couple of weeks. We had a 3-week period of dealing with a medical issue and the stress of waiting for several test results. I dealt with the stress by eating. Without thinking of any consequence, I ate what I wanted. (By the way, when I eat as a way to calm stress, I don’t reach for veggies or fruit. I reach for the same crap that everyone probably does…the stuff that has gotten me in trouble on and off over the years.) I didn’t work out. Can you see the recipe for disaster?
I woke up this weekend and it hit me. I felt gross. I felt heavy. I felt unhealthy. Yes, it’s a result of not eating as I should but on a deeper level…even deeper than the issue of emotional eating… I wasn’t respecting myself, my body. BOOM. The realization hit me like a ton of bricks. There is a slew of information on the Internet about food addiction and emotional eating, but strip all of that away and you are left with the basic issue of respect.
Respect means that you don’t harm someone, you don’t lie, you don’t steal, you are considerate, and you have a high regard for the person. I bet if I asked you are you respectful of others, you would say yes. Why then do we find it so easy to be disrespectful to ourselves?
What are some steps that you can take to respect your body?
First, you need to stop viewing your body as an ornament and start to view it as the machine that it really is. Think about it…if you want your car to run powerfully, would you put sugar in the gas tank? You would think I was crazy if I told you I did that. In fact, my car wouldn’t even be running. Likewise, if you want your body to run efficiently, you must put the correct fuel in it…the high-octane stuff. For the past 3 weeks, I’ve been using the equivalent of diesel fuel in an unleaded car. As a result, I now feel sluggish, blah, and am not running effectively.
Not only do you need to be aware of the fuel you choose, but also you need to start simply listening to your body. Your body gives you signs. If your body says that you are tired but you don’t take the day off and push through the workout anyways, you aren’t respecting yourself. This lack of respect is detrimental.
Many of us deal with varying issues of self-esteem that can take years to overcome. I say screw the “love yourself” notion that we may feel we struggle with. Simply “respect yourself” and it can change everything instantly… TODAY!
P.S. I’m happy to say that the medical trial appears to be behind us and all is well. In the future, however, other trials WILL come my way. I’m determined to respect myself through them. Not only will I fuel my body to be the well-oiled machine that it is, but that I will also pay attention to what my body says. “R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me”…and this weekend, I did. Arethra Franklin would be proud.
If you struggle with the same feelings, I’d love to hear from you.
To Living Your Best Life,
Rochelle Griffin, RN BSN FDN-P
Rochelle Griffin, The Wellness Detective™, is a Registered Nurse (with over 22 years experience) & a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition™ Practitioner who has transitioned her love for fitness, health, & freedom into a 7-figure International company that now helps others live Their Best Life.
She founded Your Best Life, Inc with her husband Keith after stepping onto the edge of physical ruin with her health & the health of their young son. Having experienced a complete turn-around, they now desire to give hope & support to those who are dissatisfied with their current situation.
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