Perfection of Imperfection
by Rochelle Griffin
Just the other day I was on a call with my Business Coaching Mentorship group and someone mentioned that he gets stuck in writing his blog articles. He finds that he second-guesses himself as he writes…trying to make everything perfect as he goes…thus finding himself in a block. I told him to sit down and just write…write from the heart…not try to be perfect…not overthink…instead to be human as that is what people will connect with.
As I said this to him, it hit me like a ton of bricks that many of us do the exact same thing with our health and fitness. We have this “all or nothing” mentality…this “I must be perfect” way of thinking…and if we can’t be perfect, we find ourselves stuck and not moving forward. Or worse, we simply give up. Oh the standards that we tend to hold ourselves to. Often we can be so incredibly hard on ourselves…much harder than we would be on someone else.
Here’s the thing and I want you to lean in close to hear this, none of us will ever be perfect. Ever. Until you let go of the thought of perfection, you will remain stuck. We are imperfect beings and it’s OK.
Please know that I’m writing from a place of understanding…I mess up too…make the wrong choices. I often have to pick myself back up by my bootstraps and move forward. So how do we move forward while being imperfect? How do we achieve our goals of being fit and healthy if we mess up? Simply put, have a plan.
Workout 5-6 days per week: It doesn’t matter what you are doing…just do it. If you are just starting out, walking is fine. As you progress, you will want to intensify your workouts and add in strength training 3 days per week.
Eat healthy: I know…easier said then done…or is it? Truly eating healthy isn’t difficult. It’s about choices. Stick with the perimeter of your grocery store for the healthiest foods. This is another “just do it” moment.
Allow a flex meal weekly: I do this. You should too. It’s that one meal every week where you can eat whatever you choose. You aren’t going to worry about the calories, the fat content, nothing. You are simply going to enjoy it. Having a flex meal works two-fold: first it helps to keep you from thinking that you are on a “diet.” For example, if BBQ ribs are your most-favorite food in the whole wide world, you are going to be able to eat them weekly! It’s not going to mess up your plan because you’ve already been eating healthy the rest of the time. Second, bumping up your calories this way once a week is a great way to keep your metabolism burning well.
Remember “life happens”: Yep, it does. There will be times when you and your spouse will be running crazy in the morning because the alarm didn’t go off, the school bus is coming for the kids in 15 min, and you have a meeting at work that you can’t be late for. You’ll run out the door, totally forgetting to eat breakfast, get to work, see the donuts in the break room, and grab one.
Now I’m not telling you to go for donuts on crazy days. I’m simply saying that crazy days…ie life…will happen. You simply need to shrug your shoulders and move on.
Forgive yourself: Forgiving ourselves is the most important piece of understanding that we are imperfect. Forgiveness allows us to move forward and stay on our path.
It’s important to remember, that although we can and should have a plan in place, things will happen that will throw us off of our path…perhaps for an hour, a day, a week. It’s life. “I get knocked down, but I get up again,” is a line in a song by Chumbawamba and says it all. As soon as you are willing to ease into that beauty of imperfection, you’ll actually find the perfection that you are looking for.
To Living Your Best Life,
Rochelle Griffin, RN BSN FDN-P
Rochelle Griffin, The Wellness Detective™, is a Registered Nurse (with over 22 years experience) & a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition™ Practitioner who has transitioned her love for fitness, health, & freedom into a 7-figure International company that now helps others live Their Best Life.
She founded Your Best Life, Inc with her husband Keith after stepping onto the edge of physical ruin with her health & the health of their young son. Having experienced a complete turn-around, they now desire to give hope & support to those who are dissatisfied with their current situation.
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