Don’t feed the caterpillar…and other ways to cope with change
by: Rochelle Griffin
Metamorphosis. Change of seasons. Growth.
We all have these periods in our lives. Some of us embrace them. Some of us fight them. Some of us vacillate between the two. Regardless of how we handle them, we cannot escape going through them. What matters is HOW we cope during these times.
I am personally in a season of change. Thankfully I know myself well enough to recognize it because it tends to by cyclical. See if you can relate, if not to the situation, to the feelings…
When my hubby deployed to Afghanistan 2 years ago, I threw myself into my business as a way of coping. It took on the form of traveling almost monthly and incessantly striving to grow as I kept myself busy. This form of coping continued well into this year. Over the past several months, I’ve felt compelled to pull back on my traveling and slow down to be with my family. My business, over the past 6 months, has taken on an even more meaningful mission and as a result, several aspects needed to be tweaked. At times it has been difficult…at times it has been darn-right painful…but all was necessary for resolution. I just returned 2 weeks ago from a trip and have now purposefully chosen to not travel any more this year.
I am in my “cocoon” phase. This phase is best characterized by wanting to spend as much time at home as possible. It’s fine, but I have a habit of also cocooning myself with poor choices when I do this. I tend to not eat well, drink alcohol more than I should, and not take the best care of myself. It’s almost like “downtime” after having been on stage for the world. ***I would like to go on record that I do still shower and brush my teeth. 😉
Then, I reach a point where I can no longer take the cocoon and I break out of it. I metamorphose into my next season…stronger and more focused than before entering the cocoon. I can feel in my gut that I’m on the precipice of it.
The issue is during the “cocoon” phase and how I cope. During this particular season, I’ve been exploring other ways to cope with the changes of life besides emotional eating. For many, including myself, food is the “weapon” on choice. I say weapon because we aren’t using food, in that moment, to nourish our bodies. We are using it to stuff down a feeling…to numb ourselves.
Better ways to cope:
Journaling – I’m going to be transparent. I’ve tried to journal in the past but have never really had success. Recently I was introduced to a course on HOW to journal. I’m currently going thru it and am committed to really giving it effort. Putting feelings on paper vs stuffing them with food feels much better.
Working out – No surprise here, aye? Getting the endorphins flowing is a surefire way to relieve stress. I also tend to come up with some of my best ideas while working out. Go figure.
Talking it out – Having a core group of people you can be totally yourself with is essential. My hubby and a couple trusted girlfriends have made all the difference for me during this particular season. There is also no shame in seeing a professional therapist as you see fit.
Look, I’m not perfect. Even though I’ve found better ways to cope, I do and have fallen back into old patterns from time to time. The difference is that I now recognize it and am able to pull myself out of the pit before I get too deep. How do you cope when you feel yourself in a season of change? I’d love to hear other ideas that I can add to my arsenal.
To Living Your Best Life,
Rochelle Griffin, RN BSN FDN-P
Rochelle Griffin, The Wellness Detective™, is a Registered Nurse (with over 22 years experience) & a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition™ Practitioner who has transitioned her love for fitness, health, & freedom into a 7-figure International company that now helps others live Their Best Life.
She founded Your Best Life, Inc with her husband Keith after stepping onto the edge of physical ruin with her health & the health of their young son. Having experienced a complete turn-around, they now desire to give hope & support to those who are dissatisfied with their current situation.
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