Breast Feeding, Diaper Changing, & Dependency in Business
by Rochelle Griffin
Business owners, do you ever feel like you are breast feeding or changing diapers in business? There is a culture among direct sales companies to create dependency in the masses vs. raising up individual business leaders. I don’t think that people start out to initially become dependent nor do I think that leaders start out to make others dependent on them. Unfortunately it is the reality of what happens over time. The leaders tend to remain this “elite” group that the masses strive to be a part of but very few actually achieve it. In fact, it’s less than 1% that joins this particular group.
The direct sales industry says that people have their own independent business as contractors, yet among the ranks, they really don’t behave as if they do. Instead people tend to move in a herd and God-forbid, they decide to do something that the herd isn’t. The masses become paralyzed that their sponsor, upline, whatever the word that you use, won’t agree with them, so they are afraid to think for themselves for fear that they will make a mistake.
I’m about to take a huge burden off of someone’s shoulders with my next two statements.
You are NOT responsible for others success. THEY are 100% responsible for it.
They are also responsible for utilizing or not utilizing tools. You have no control if they don’t follow through…you have no power if they quit, so stop taking the responsibility away from them and making them co-dependent on you. Let them think for themselves. Likewise YOU are responsible for your own success as well.
Attempting to do it all…be it all…for your organization simply isn’t sustainable long-term. I equate it to trying to be Superwoman or Superman in your family. Can we all say burnout!?!?! Training your team, feeling responsible for creating success…over time the load will become too much to bear on your shoulders.
Promise that I’m not just blowing smoke your way. I speak from experience. I did exactly this…and before I knew it, I was working 80-90 hours per week, was miserable, & had people expecting me to be at their beckon call. Sure the money was great, but it was at the expense of my family who hated what I did. You know those “elite” leaders that everyone strives to become? Promise that they make sacrifices to reach that point…and not all are pretty.
Instead of making people dependent on you, give them the tools and let them fly…or fall. Teach people to be leaders in their own right…a leader of their business…a BUSINESS OWNER! It’s not your job to grow THEIR organization. It’s theirs.
Am I saying that you don’t have any responsibility as someone’s mentor? Nope, that’s not what I’m saying. You do bear some responsibility, but what is your role?
Your role is to:
1) Give them the tools to be successful
2) Support them & be their cheerleaders
3) Call them out when dependency shows itself
4) Point them in the right direction to find their own answers
Then you turn your attention, as a responsible independent business owner, to growing your own business.
If you’ve already created dependency in your organization, it is reversible but will take some work on your part. It’s time to establish firm boundaries and stick to it. Some won’t be happy about it. Some will be down right ticked off. It’s ok, and it’s not your worry.
When you fully place the responsibility of others’ success directly into their own laps, you will be amazed how people will step up to the plate. You will see your organization grow, mature, and develop deep roots. You will have set people free to be more successful than you’ve ever imagined. ☺
To Living Your Best Life,
Rochelle Griffin, RN BSN FDN-P
Rochelle Griffin, The Wellness Detective™, is a Registered Nurse (with over 22 years experience) & a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition™ Practitioner who has transitioned her love for fitness, health, & freedom into a 7-figure International company that now helps others live Their Best Life.
She founded Your Best Life, Inc with her husband Keith after stepping onto the edge of physical ruin with her health & the health of their young son. Having experienced a complete turn-around, they now desire to give hope & support to those who are dissatisfied with their current situation.
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