The Art of Growing Up
by Rochelle Griffin
Be still my momma heart…my son is growing up.
It has been quite the week in the Griffin home. If you have kids that have ever gone away during summer, you’ll understand. If your kids are still to young, trust me…your time is coming. 😉
On Monday, we took our 12-year old son to a one-week sleep away church camp. Because it’s specifically for teens, he’s one of the youngest there.
The weekend prior as we packed, Jacob talked to me about being unsure. He was going to a camp that he has never been to without knowing a single person. Honestly, as I write this, I just realized he might be one of the bravest people that I know. I don’t know that I would have been able to do that at his age.
We talked about all the fun stuff that he’d be able to do, that it was truly only for 4 nights, and that we would only be a phone call away. They allow cell phones in the evening during free time and my kid isn’t shy about telling me when something isn’t right.
On Monday we went to the camp located on a beautiful river. We were greeted with live music playing, kids milling around, & gear all over the place. I put on my brave face so my son would be comfortable. Once he was placed with his group, we left.
Within an hour, he text me:
Mom, so far my only friends are the counselors.
Jacob, it’s way early. You’ll make friends. (Then I prayed over him…yes you can do that via text.)
At this point, my momma instincts are firing on all cylinders, and I wanna go back, snatch him up and bring him home. Thankfully my hubby is the rationale one and was able to calm me down.
Later that evening I texted him again to say good night. Around midnight he texted me back Good night.
That night I slept like poo…tossing and turning…wondering if he was ok. I woke up literally exhausted.
That day was a regular day for me. I spent several hours in my home office, writing, guiding clients, etc. I tried really hard to not watch the clock and wonder what Jacob was doing. Seriously I’m a nut.
By 6pm, I still hadn’t heard from him. Suddenly my imagination took off to places where it doesn’t belong. WHY wasn’t he contacting me? Was something wrong? Did they lose him? Was he hurt? Ummmm…did I consider that perhaps he was actually having FUN!?!? Well, yes but come on…there could be these other reasons too. Duh. I honestly can’t believe I’m even giving you a glimpse into my crazy mind but I’m being transparent here.
By 9pm my hubby can’t take it anymore. He tells me to text Jacob and ask him to just text me back telling me he’s ok.
I endured another sleepless night. Seriously I could be enjoying a mini-honeymoon but not at this point.
The next morning, at 7:30am I get a blank text from Jacob. I text back:
Your text was blank. I assume that means you’re ok. Are you ok?
Ys I m. (Huh? What kind of response is that? Now I’m thinking has someone taken his phone? Is he ok? The more tired I am, the less rational I become…my poor hubby.)
Is that you?
Who else would it be…Hannah Montana? (Ok, yea that’s my kid.)
Have a great day today. I love you.
We go to pick him up tomorrow afternoon. I’m happy to report that I finally “let go and let God” yesterday, realizing that our son is growing up and I can’t control everything.
After 2 nights of less than 4 hours sleep (NOT good!), I slept. We are even taking a date night tonight.
I’m literally laughing at myself as I write this. My irrational fears and thoughts exhausted me, stressed me, and served absolutely no purpose. Boy is it ever hard to let your kids grow up!
I can’t lie though…I’m really looking forward to family night tomorrow night…gluten free pizza, a movie, popcorn, and snuggling.
Parents, give your kids an extra hug tonight and warn them that you just may have some irrational moments as they are growing up!
To Living Your Best Life,
Rochelle Griffin, RN BSN FDN-P
Rochelle Griffin, The Wellness Detective™, is a Registered Nurse (with over 22 years experience) & a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition™ Practitioner who has transitioned her love for fitness, health, & freedom into a 7-figure International company that now helps others live Their Best Life.
She founded Your Best Life, Inc with her husband Keith after stepping onto the edge of physical ruin with her health & the health of their young son. Having experienced a complete turn-around, they now desire to give hope & support to those who are dissatisfied with their current situation.
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